One who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?)  1 Timothy 3:4-5

I understand this portion of Paul’s apostolic instruction to be “the” key to church government and incarnational leadership.  The way a man is called by God to lead his home provides the insight, understanding and blueprint for how men are called to lead the house of God.

The covenant of marriage between a man and a woman is the sacred representation of Christ and the Church. This covenant relationship contains a divine design as to how we are to bring forth a godly heritage of sons and daughters and how we are to lead them as the family of God.

My wife and I are one.  Oneness is the…